Carl wrote:IMO, people don't fall in love with an objective, other person, at all.
Yes, at least with respect to the romantic love. But think about the unified field David Lynch talks about, for example. In this philosophy I think there is oneness, familarity and love on a deep level of consciousness. Should it be true everyone loves everyone on this level.
They project onto someone of the appropriate age, sex and mere appearance that image which they themselves seek, that Persona that will answer their own, quite selfish, emotional needs and then they fall in love with that image.
Yes, important factors with regard to the romantic love indeed. But I would propose an interest in what is behind the Persona, as well. An interest in the way the one is with whom one falls in love with. And I think we maybe have a representation of this in the confrontation scene between "Sue" and the Sides. Devon only presents his "mask" Billy, but "Sue" wants to know what behind this mask is. She says something like "There`s more.".
Of course, there's that other kind of love, based more on affection than desire, but it's just good fortune if the original, deluded, romantic impulse is able to survive long enough to morph into it.
I wonder whether love based on affection is more often a "one-way-ticket" than love based on desire. And whether with love based on affection comes more "frozenness" of the Persona than with love based on desire.
Sometimes, for a time, the delusion and self-deception are mutual. As Humbert creates a image of desire and projects this onto Lolita,, she, meanwhile, has concocted her own dream image and projected it onto Humbert. It all works as a love story, for a brief time, until she sees through her projected image and seeks to escape. Humbert, though, has 'that everlasting love' .
Isn`t Humbert just a toy to play with for Lolita, after or while, respectively, she loves the one who speaks to Humbert several times?
Love is created in movies by choosing a person of a certain age, sex and appearance , carefully filming them as they enact an engaging series of behavior displays ( kindness, courage, loyalty...whatever is likely to turn the target audience on) The wonderful little people watching in the dark then are enabled to project their own desires onto this tailor-made Persona and...a star is born.
And when there is an actor/an actress with a special kind of behaviour and attention - like Romy Schneider or Julia Ormond - a super-star is born.
What I wonder is why Nikki's husband wants this to happen. Does he? Is he being sincere in warning Devon away? I doubt it.
When there is that scene in which Nikki says "It sounds like a dialogue from our script" and then warns Devon, the next scene is as if Devon heard such a warning the first time. As if the warning of Nikki`s husband didn`t take place. Her husband is mentally present on the set - watching over the bonds of marriage. Nikki tries to prevent Devon for running into the trap, but he runs and runs as Billy.